Last week reminded me of something important: You Are Not Too Much.
There are moments when life—or the people in it—try to convince us that we’re too much.
Too sensitive. Too emotional. Too loud. Too honest. Too complicated.
And if you hear it enough, you start to believe it.
I know, because I was one of those powerful women who shrank to fit.
I shrank to be chosen.
Shrank to avoid conflict.
Shrank because I thought maybe if I was a little quieter, a little easier, a little less… I’d finally be enough.
But here’s what I know now:
You are not too much.
Your feelings are not too much.
Your needs are not too much.
You are just as much as you need to be.
Shrink to Fit? Never Again
When someone can’t meet you where you are, they’ll often make you the problem instead of naming their own limitations.
You start questioning yourself.
Was I too emotional?
Too intense?
Too needy?
No.
You were asking to be loved with care.
To be held without having to lose yourself.
And you still deserve that.
Survival Mode Isn’t Living
When you’ve been in survival mode for so long, it becomes your normal.
You start to believe that just getting through the day is all there is.
You learn how to keep the peace, carry the weight, smile through the ache… and forget what it feels like to actually be alive.
But you’re not meant to survive forever. You deserve to live.
To breathe deeply.
To feel joy without guilt.
To take up space without explanation.
Healing Happens in Community
I used to think I had to heal alone. That no one could understand the mess behind the mask.
But healing becomes possible when someone sees you fully and still stays.
When you’re reminded, again and again, that your softness is a strength, your truth is not too loud, and you don’t have to hide anymore.
That’s what Salt + Soil is about.
A space where you can come home to yourself, without shame or apology.
This Is Your Homecoming
If you’ve ever made yourself smaller just to be loved…
If you’ve kept quiet to keep the peace…
If you’ve wondered whether you’re just too much…
Here’s what I want you to know:
You are not too much.
You are not too sensitive.
You are not too complicated.
You are exactly as much as you need to be.
And the people who are meant for you will never ask you to be anything less.
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